Best Ways to Surprise Your Nigerian Wife

Society has erroneously made us believe that it is only women that try to be romantic to take the extra effort to make their spouses or partners happy. However, many people have been able to attest to the fact that men can also be very thoughtful in the relationship. For Nigerian men, the idea even seems more afar off.

The truth is that a lot of Nigerian men even when they want to surprise their wives or be romantic, do not exactly know how to go about it. If you are one of those men, here are a few tips on how to make your wife happy.

• Cook her something

Nigerian men are not generally the cooks of the house, and a lot of them do not honestly try. This is why it is a very nice way to surprise your wife. Rather than the norm of calling your wife to tell her what you feel like eating, go home a little earlier and cook something simple for her. Of course, this works well if you haven’t been sharing the cooking before. If you do not know how to cook, put in a little effort to do research and she’ll love you more.

• Surprise her at work

Many men are fond of leaving their wives to go about their businesses themselves. While it is fine to give your wife space, surprising her every once in a while is wonderful. It could be valentine gifts or a birthday cake if it’s her birthday. She’ll absolutely love it if her colleagues saw how wonderful a husband she has.

• Get her a thoughtful gift

Gifts are not just restricted to birthdays or anniversaries; you can get your wife a gift for no reason at all. If she just got a promotion at work, get her a gift. If she just lost at something, a gift can be gotten to make her feel better as well. The point is that at every point you can, get her something to remind her that you’re thinking about her constantly.

• Lunch at work

Take her out to lunch like you would if you were still trying to get her attention and you’ll refresh the love. You can also bring her lunch and give her something new to be happy about. It’s simple, but it is a surprise that would leave her smiling for the rest of the day, no matter how tough work gets.

• Plan a getaway

Finally, you can pull of something grand by planning a special getaway for both of you. If you have a lot of money, a getaway out of the country would be spectacular. If not, take her to a nice hotel and get her off the stress of cooking and cleaning even if it is just for a weekend.

No matter what you do for her, it is the thought that counts. Every woman would appreciate effort when she sees it. Surprising her is a wonderful way to add spice into your marriage.

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I Caught My Boyfriend Sleeping With My Mother in Our House

A young girl took to social media to share a really shocking story about her boyfriend’s $exual involvement with her own mother.

The girl shared her tale with shocked online readers revealing that she caught her mother and her boyfriend having se-x.

Below is how she put the story:

Please help me.

I am 16 years old and have been in love with my 18-year-old boyfriend for a while.

My boyfriend is my first and we have been in what I thought was true love.

One thing about him is that he is too hot. His handsomeness is on another level. Most times when we walk around the street, many girls stop to look at him.

Sometimes this makes me uncomfortable because I feel I may soon lose him to someone else.

But he always tells me that will never happen, that he loves me and me alone.

Well, I trusted him and let the matter rest.

However the unimaginable happened recently.

I went out with my friends to have my hair done in the salon however, halfway through, I began to feel a severe headache and decided to go home and finish up the next day.

I got the shock of my life when I came home and met my mother having se-x with my boyfriend.

I don’t know what to do right now. I have een contemplated suicide. What do I do, please???

My mother is 33 years old by the way and had lost my dad few years ago.

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See Cristiano Ronaldo’s Astonishing Collection Of Cars Including 3 Porsches, 2 Bugattis, 2 Ferraris & They Are Worth Almost £6Million Photos

Cristiano Ronaldo is one of the most hardworking footballers on earth, having enjoyed a successful career at Manchester United before moving to Real Madrid where he currently plays and earns £365,000 weekly.

Cristiano Ronaldo and his cars

The footballer who’s also a model and businessman has made millions and he’s still making more money. He’s known for his flamboyant lifestyle off the pitch and he has got a special taste for fast cars.

During his time at Manchester United, Ronaldo was first seen with a Porsche Cayenne worth £67,500, followed by a suave BMW M6 ( £77,500 ), Porsche Carrera S – (£87,335), and Ferrari 599 GTB Fiorano worth £200,000.

Following his transfer to Real Madrid in 2009, the Portuguese continued his flamboyant lifestyle off the pitch. He added to his garage Audi RS5 – (£61,0000), Audi R8 – (£107,000) Audi S8 – (£82,000), Mercedes S65 AMG Coupe – (£180,000), Mercedes-Benz AMG GLE 63S – (£105,000) and Range Rover Sport SVR – (£100,000)

The football star also has Ferrari F12 – £240,000, Ferrari 599 GTB Fiorano – (£200,000), Porsche 911 Turbo S – (£148,000), Mclaren mp4-12c – (£168,500), Chevrolet Camaro SS – (£35,000), Bugatti Veron – (£1.7million) and Bugatti Chiron – (£2.5m).

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Pope Francis And Trump Exchanged Gifts After Meeting At The Vatican

Trump was effusive in his gratitude, the traveling pool said, and repeatedly thanked the Pope as he explained the gifts he was giving American president.

Pope Francis and President Donald Trump exchanged gifts on Wednesday during a meeting Trump later called “fantastic” and “an honor.”

Although the Pope initially appeared stony-faced, the mood appeared to lighten after the men presented one another with the gifts, according to the traveling pool of reporters who observed part of the meeting.

Trump gave Pope Francis a first-edition set of Martin Luther King Jr.’s writings, including all five of his books: “Stride Toward Freedom,” “The Measure of a Man,” “The Strength to Love,” “Why We Can’t Wait,” and “Where Do We Go from Here: Chaos or Community?”

He also gave the Pope a piece of granite from the Martin Luther King Jr. Memorial’s “Stone of Hope” statue in Washington, DC, and a bronze sculpture named, “Rising Above,” which the White House said represents “hope for a peaceful tomorrow.”

The books and the granite were a nod to Pope Francis’ 2015 address to Congress, in which he praised King’s civil rights legacy, the White House said.

In return, Pope Francis gave Trump three of his writings, which he typically gives to heads of state, including “Amoris Laetitia,” “Evangelii Gaudium,” and “Laudato Si’” — his 2015 encyclical calling for climate change action. The documents concern topics such as family, the joy of the gospel, and the environment.

Trump was effusive in his gratitude, the traveling pool said, and repeatedly thanked the Pope as he explained the gifts he was giving Trump.

Pope Francis also gave Trump this year’s World Day of Peace message about non-violence, telling Trump, “I signed it personally for you.”

“Ooh,” Trump replied. “That’s so beautiful.”

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JAMB 2017: See How Universities Will Conduct Admission This Year (Must See)

• How will universities determine cutoff marks to admit students
• How Will Universities admit student in 2017 base on cut off marks

How Universities will Conduct Admission this Year. After the recent scrapping of post utme exam by the federal government, you might be wondering how the universities will conduct admission this year.

Going by the reactions of candidates over the withdrawal of the list of candidates sent to tertiary institutions for admission consideration by JAMB, it is important we clarify a few things to avoid confusion and ensure candidates are properly guided.

So here are important things you should know and keep in mind concerning this new development;

1. The University senate now has autonomy to select candidates for admission. However the list of selected candidates must pass through JAMB for approval and issuance of admission letters.

2. Whether or not you were posted to a school or not for admission consideration earlier no longer matters. As the posting is no longer valid. All you need to do now is wait for your school of choice to announce its screening exercise and ensure you participate accordingly.

3. For Tertiary institutions that have already conducted their admission screening exercise in line with JAMB stipulations, such screening still remains valid. Candidates that participated in such screening should wait for the release of the admission list(s) by their respective institutions.

4. The withdrawal of the JAMB Consideration List does not mean that post-UTME is now valid. The ban on Post-UTME remains valid. Tertiary institutions must abide to the screening modalities as earlier announced by JAMB.

5. Candidates should note that the offer of provisional admission by their schools of choice is subject to validation by the Joint Admissions and Matriculation Board (JAMB).

The Joint Admission And Matriculation Board held a meeting at the B.O Ukeje Auditorium, Nation Commission for colleges of Education, Central Business District Abuja on Tuesday 28th, 29th and 30th to map out admission screening modalities for Colleges of education, polytechnics and Universities.

The meeting was chaired by the permanent secretary ministry of education, Dr. Shade Yemi-Esan.

After evaluating the screening models of some schools in previous years and other factors surrounding the admission processes in tertiary institution in the country, JAMB released a proposed model for the screening of recommended candidates.

PROPOSED JAMB MODEL FOR SCREENING OF RECOMMENDED CANDIDATES

1. Screening of candidates shall be for ONLY candidates recommended for admissions.

2. No written examination to be conducted.

3. Verification of Course Requirements (O’ levels or A’ levels).

4. Verification of valid JAMB results by checking:
i. Online Result Slip
ii. Printout
iii. Photo Album
v. Checklist
vi. Biometrics

5. Institutions are free to source from other Course(s) to

compensate for SHORTFALL in any of the criteria.

If the proposed model for admission as proposed by JAMB is to be adopted for 2016/2017 admission process, below is how the admission process will run and all you should know about it.

1. JAMB must offer a candidate an admission before such candidates qualifies for screening in the institution he or she has been provisionally admitted. This means that institutions can only screening candidates sent to them by JAMB as having been provisionally admitted in such institution.

2. Institutions admission screening processes will now be based on point system. The first on the point system is the O’level grading. Candidates who have only one O-level result will stand a better chance of gaining admission than candidates with 2 results. One 0’level result = 10marks/points while two O’level results = 3 marks/points.

Similarly, each grade will now have its equivalent points/marks in this manner; A=6 marks, B=4 marks, C=3 marks which means the having better grades in your O’level result gives you a better chance of securing admission.

The next to be considered on the point system is your UTME Score. Candidates will be awarded marks/points based on their 180-200=20-23 marks, 200-250=24-33 points, 251-300=34-43, 300-400=44-60 points. The higher your score, the higher your chances of securing admission.

This means that what we previously know as institutions cut-off-marks will now be known as institutions cut-off points which will be arrived at after putting all the aforementioned into consideration.

3. JAMB provisional admission is now a means to an end and not an end itself. This means that JAMB may offer a candidate a provisional admissions and such candidate will still be denied admission by his/her institution because he or she comes below the cut-off point for his/her course in that particular institution.

For instance you may be given provisional admission to study MBBS in UNIBEN by JAMB having obtained a UTME score of 260. If your institution’s cut-off point for medicine is 95 points and you come below that number of points after the screening, you will likely be denied admission.

4. Admission process will still put into considerations factors like catchment area and ELDS (Educationally Less Developed States) in determining the number of candidates admitted. Admission by merit is 45%, catchment area 35% and ELDS 20%.

The issue of Science to arts ratio will still be in place. For universities Science to arts ratio will be 60:40 , Polytechnics 70:30. However for specialized institutions (Technology, Science Agriculture etc) it will be 100% related to their specialty. Also 90% of admission will go to UTME candidates while 10% will go to Direct Entry candidates.

5. Schools are still at liberty to charge a certain fee for the screening of candidates. However, the Board did not stipulate how much institutions are to charge for this.

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Your king Can be a Slave Else Where Popular ‘Yahoo Boy’ Hushpuppi Publicly Disgraced By Mayweather

• Popular ‘Yahoo Boy’ Hushpuppi Publicly Disgraced By Mayweather
• Mayweather Disgraced Hushpuppi

Your king can be a slave else where… the struggle is real lol .. Nigerian popular lavish spender and fashion celebrity “hush puppi” Was seen trying hard to take a pose with Professional Boxer “Floyd Mayweather” but glory be to God he was able to touch Mayweather’s cloth just as the Woman with issues of blood did in the Bible by Touching Jesus Christ Cloak to receive define healing… Can’t stop Laughing..

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EFCC to Spend N6.13billion on New Head Office

The Federal Government will spend additional N6.129bn on a new head office for the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission in 2017 according to the Punch.

 

This was apart from a total of N7.912bn budgeted for the same project in the 2016 Budget. The commission’s current head office is located on Fomella Street, off Adetokunbo Ademola Crescent, Wuse II, Abuja.

 

According to a copy of the details of the 2017 Appropriation Bill currently before the National Assembly obtained by our correspondent, N4.584bn would be spent on the completion of the ongoing construction of the new head office.

 

The sum of N1.1bn was also earmarked for the furnishing of the yet-to-be completed building while N244.727m was budgeted for consultancy for the new head office.

 

According to the budget document, the EFCC will also be spending N60m on the completion of its Lagos office building and N10m on consultancy for the same project.

 

The commission is also expected to spend N737.85m on the training of its members of staff during the fiscal year.

 

This is against the N111.587m budgeted for the same purpose in 2016. Out of the sum, N707.85m would be spent on local training while international training would gulp N30m.

 

N76.587m was budgeted for local training while N35m went to international training in 2016. Travel and transport for the commission got N415.848m in the 2017 appropriation bill.

 

Further breakdown shows that local travel and transport (training) gets N41.716m; local travel and transport (others) gets N249.672m; international travel and transport (training) gets N100m while international travel and transport (others) gets N24.460m.

 

The commission will also be spending N250.536m on legal services during the year. This is a drastic reduction in the N339.939m budgeted for the same item in the 2016 budget.

 

A large percentage of the sum is expected to be paid to lawyers handling the commission’s numerous prosecutions. With the renewed anti-corruption fight of the present administration, the EFCC has witnessed an increase in corruption cases being prosecuted in courts.

 

Majority of the cases currently being prosecuted by the commission are those related to the alleged arms contract scandal involving a former National Security Adviser, Col. Sambo Dasuki (retd.); as well as the $115m alleged scam involving a former Minister of Petroleum Resources, Diezani Alison-Madueke.

 

Former ministers, ex-service chiefs, chieftains of the opposition Peoples Democratic Party, bank chiefs among other individuals and firms are currently standing trials in relation to the cases.

 

There are expectations that the commission will still arrest and prosecute more suspects in connection with the cases.

 

Various sums have also been budgeted for the commission to cater for industrial and security equipment, stationery, computer and printers as well as library books among others during the year.

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PDP Lawmaker Praises Buhari and Military for Capturing Sambisa Forest

A member of the Peoples Democratic Party and a lawmaker in Lagos state has praised President Muhammadu Buhari and the Nigerian Army for defeating Boko Haram.

A chieftain of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP) in Lagos, Mr Olusola Sokunle on Tuesday commended President Muhammadu Buhari and the military over the successful capture of Boko Haram enclave in Sambisa forest.

 

Sokunle, a member of the Lagos State House of Assembly, told the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) that the feat showed government’s commitment to the security of lives and property of Nigerians.

 

The lawmaker, however, urged the government to improve the living condition of Internally Displaced Persons’ in various camps across the country.

 

According to him, it is important for government to ensure that all displaced Nigerians adjust to a normal life before returning to their communities and homes.

 

“Security of lives and property remains the primary responsibility of government anywhere in the world.

“The capture of Sambisa by the Nigerian Army is a signal that the Federal Government is conscious of the security of lives and property of the citizen.

“We advise the federal government to further improve the lives of those in the IDP camps,” Sokunle said.

 

The lawmaker, who represents Oshodi/Isolo Constituency I, felicitated with Christians as they celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ.

 

He urged them to use the period to pray for peaceful coexistence in the country.

 

According to him, such prayers would help support the efforts of government in resuscitating the nation’s ailing economy.

 

NAN reports that President Buhari had on Dec. 24, announced the fall of the last enclave of Boko Haram in Sambisa forest to the Nigerian military.

 

-NAN

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8 Important Reasons To Let Go Of People Who No Longer Play An Important Part In Your Life

There comes a point in every person’s life when he or she parts ways with someone: ex, friend and anyone in between. Upon first meeting this person, there’s a sweet beginning, but once you come to really know each other and grow comfortable, you suddenly realize that the relationship no longer brings any particular value to your life and is perhaps, even detrimental. Sometimes, we hold on to people purely based on how long we have known them.

Sometimes, things are better left as mere memories. You can try to change things back to how they were or try to create things to be the way you want them, but you’ll never be truly happy because it’ll never be anything like how things once were. If a person isn’t bringing something significant to your life, not treating you how you’d like or isn’t the type of person you want him or her to be, it’s a clear sign that you need distance. While it would be selfish of you to not accept a person for whom he or she is, it would be unfair for you to have to endure a friendship or relationship that isn’t cultivating a better you. Now that we have come to ascertain why you may be holding on, let’s make it clear why you need to let go:

1. Let go because things are not the same anymore. People simply grow a part, which is perfectly normal. You realize you want different things, no longer share the same interests, no longer understand and no longer connect. Sometimes, it’s a matter of accepting that it takes time to let go, rather than holding on to something that just can’t be brought back, was lost a long time ago or perhaps, was never really there at all. It’s difficult to hold on to people in life, but remember that you’re destined to meet different people along your journey who will bring you happiness, sorrow, pain and joy.

2. Let go because the trust and loyalty isn’t there. If you know in your heart that you can’t trust this person and he or she cannot be loyal, then you need to ask yourself why this person is in your life. Trust and loyalty are the foundation of any friendship and relationship. If they’re not present, it may only lead to paranoia, frustration, tension and anger that you’re better off without feeling. Find someone with whom you can share your deepest darkest secrets and you know that after walking away, his or her lips will remain tightly sealed. Find someone whose faithfulness to you will be unquestionable because his or her actions, rather than empty promises, bring you a peace of mind.

3. Let go because you are unclear of where things stand. Engaging in an undefined friendship or relationship is confusing because you don’t know what you mean to the person, if anything at all. If the person can’t make you feel as though you’re significant, reflect on why you’re allowing someone to treat this way. Be in the company of someone who is proud to have you in his or her life and will make that known to you and the rest of the world. Be in the company of someone who won’t gamble with your heart and mind simply because he or she knows you’re not going anywhere.

4. Let go if the friendship or relationship is damaging to you. If the friendship/relationship is making you unhappy or miserable, it’s time to bid the person farewell. We must not allow ourselves to feel trapped and used to being treated far less well than we deserve. If someone is putting you down, competing with you, not paying attention to you, not caring about you, abusing you, embarrassing you in front of others, making you question yourself, belittling you or simply just not caring about you, remove the negativity from your life as soon as possible. Respect yourself enough to be able to walk away.

5. Let go if you simply don’t see eye to eye. It is hard to make a relationship work if you can’t ever agree or see each other’s points of view. If the one thing you can agree on is that neither of you can agree, it might be time to walk away. In many friendships and relationships, people come together through unlikely chances, through their differences and lack of similarities. Therefore, it can work, but if you find that it’s a significant source of many of your disputes and tensions, get out now.

6. Let go if you’re the one fighting to make it work. If your relationship makes you feel as though you’re the only one putting in effort, time and love, reflect on whether or not it’s worth it. If someone truly loves you, cares for you or wants and needs you, the person will never allow you to invest disproportionate effort. Find someone who makes you feel worthwhile and worthy. Find someone who fights to have you in his or her life. Find someone who knows how lucky he or she is to have you. Find someone who acknowledges everything you have done and will do. Don’t waste your time on anything less.

7. Let go if he or she doesn’t encourage you or believe in you. If you find that your relationship isn’t providing you with support, reflect on what the person is providing. You deserve someone who will be there to encourage you throughout your journey and believe in you maybe even more than you believe in yourself.

8. Let go if the relationship isn’t bringing you what you want and need. Ask yourself whether you can do without the relationship or whether it’s something you unquestionably want and deserve. Sometimes, there’s this belief that we can be “too fussy” with what we want from others in life, but then again, why should we settle for anything less than happiness? Don’t ever allow someone to make you feel needy for wanting someone who will love, care and support you, someone who will listen and give you insightful advice, someone who wants the same things, someone you can trust and will be loyal to you, someone who believes so strongly in you and your capabilities. Just someone who makes you feel like you’re someone.

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3 Sure Fire Signs He’s Going To Cheat On You

If you have been dating someone for four or five months or longer, it’s safe to say that you know that person pretty well. By the time you have dated someone this long, you have likely seen them in a wide range of circumstances and you have a sense of whether this is a person you can trust to be monogamous — or not.

Sadly, many people continue relationships even after they sense their partner might be Cheat!ng, so the second purpose of this article is to tell you to trust your instincts and terminate the relationship soon after you sense potential trouble.

1. Past history of Cheat!ng.

Hands down, the number one sign that your new date will cheat on you is if that person cheated in their past relationship. You may not find out this information early on, but it will often come out over time. Some individuals have cheated in the past and won’t ever do it again, but most people who cheated in the past will cheat again.

To feel convinced that someone won’t cheat on you — even though they cheated on their ex — you need to have a lot of conversations on the subject and, ideally, you want to know that this person went to therapy or sought other help (self-help books, etc.) to deal with the underlying issues.

2. Flirting with others (right in front of your face!).

Who would do such a thing — flirt with someone right in front of their date? Millions of men and women! It happens all the time so be on the lookout for unbridled flirting right before your eyes.

If your date or new partner flirts with others in front of you, there is a problem. Odds are that this individual needs a lot of attention and that this individual will one day cross the line when you’re not present and shift from flirting to full-blown $exual contact.

If you want to have a long-term monogamous relationship, set a rule with your partner that neither of you will ever flirt with someone in front of one another. If your date takes the plunge and flirts in front of you, talk to friends about whether it is worth terminating the relationship. This kind of behavior is extremely difficult to change, so why not just invest in someone who doesn’t need that much attention from the start?

3. Going MIA for hours or being unreachable by phone.

If your date or new partner occasionally disappears during the day or evening and can’t be reached, this is a sign that he or she may be Cheat!ng. If he or she is unreachable for a couple of hours, that individual might be at the movies or the gym. But if someone is out of contact for a few hours — especially at night — it is a sign that Cheat!ng may be taking place.

When you talk to your new partner about the “disappearance,” be honest and share that these absences trigger anxiety or insecurity in you. More importantly, however, if this behavior becomes any sort of pattern, the real task you need to take on is to consider whether it’s time to end the relationship.

Simple reminders to take with you…

One of the best rules to remember when it comes to Cheat!ng is — wait for it — that your worries about Cheat!ng are probably founded unless you have a long history of paranoia with no justification. Most people don’t want to believe that the new person in their life is Cheat!ng, so having that sneaking feeling probably means that there really is something to worry about.

If you sense that the person you’re with is Cheat!ng on you, take good care of yourself and protect yourself emotionally. Detach a little from the relationship and take a lot of quiet time by yourself so that you can get in touch with your feelings and then make a sound decision about how to proceed.

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20 $exual Problems in a Relationship You Can Avoid

$exual intimacy is just as important as love in a happy romance. Watch out for these 20 common $exual problems that can damage your relationship. By Jana Snow

Most couples a$$ume that true love is all it takes to hold a romantic relationship together forever.

But in reality, a happy romantic relationship or a marriage needs more than just love.

It needs a healthy dose of $exual intimacy too!

Love could help both of you live together comfortably in each other’s company.

But if you want your relationship to feel exciting, pa$$ionate and memorable every single day, you definitely need to focus on $exual intimacy, just as much as you indulge in romantic gestures.

Intimacy and $exual problems in a relationship

Many couples start off on a whirlwind romance where they can’t keep their hands off each other during the first few months or years, but eventually end up in a relationship where they touch each other only to nudge their partner in bed or to get their partner’s attention.

And that perfect start to a happy romance turns into a relationship where there’s no $exual chemistry or excitement after a few years.

It doesn’t happen all at once though.

It starts in unnoticeably small ways, until it gets to the point where one or both of you just don’t feel alive in the relationship anymore, and desperately seek out ways to experience more excitement in your lives.

Are you really satisfied in a $exless marriage?

Let’s face it, no one wants to end up in a marriage that’s riddled with intimacy issues. If you met someone today, and by some foresight, you get to know that in ten years’ time, both of you would be $exually incompatible and completely ignore each other $exually, would you still date this person?

Do you remember the time when you would have $ex at every instance you got your hands on your lover? So just how often are you getting $exually intimate with your partner these days?

Don’t ignore your $ex drive!

$exual problems in a relationship may creep in slowly, but there are always noticeable little signs that you can see if you truly care to see them.

Don’t ever ignore these subtle signs. If you ever feel like having $ex isn’t worth the effort it takes, it’s probably a wakeup call that’s long overdue. When $ex starts to feel boring, or if your $ex drive starts to go downhill for any reason at all, you need to look for new ways to bring the excitement back into your relationship.

20 $exual problems in a relationship you can avoid easily

There could be several reasons why $exual problems creep into a relationship. But if you catch the signs early or make up your mind to turn things around, you can rekindle the flickering flame of pa$$ion and make your relationship feel just as exciting as it felt during the stage of infatuation.

Read these 20 most common $exual problems in a relationship, and if you’re experiencing any of these issues in your own love lives, fix it before it turns into an irreparable $exual problem.

#1 Mismatched $ex drive. A man may experience the peak of arousal within ten minutes if he chooses to. But a woman generally takes a lot longer to experience a $exual orgasm. If the $exual drives of both partners don’t match or if one partner is always left unsatisfied by the experience, it’s only a matter of time before $ex starts to feel like a rewardless burden.

Indulge in longer foreplay that excites both lovers, and communicate with each other. It’s the easiest way to avoid this kind of a $exual problem in the relationship.

#2 Monotony. If you’re doing the same missionary in the same corner of the bed every single time, things can start to get pretty boring in a few years. Experiment with each other, make $ex feel exciting and refreshing by trying new things all the time.

#3 $exual anxiety. Do you realize that you haven’t had $ex for a long time? And does that thought actually make you feel more restless and anxious each time you think of it? For many couples, it’s easier to completely ignore $exual intimacy instead of dealing with the stress of confronting the issue.

It’s true, confronting the issue could make you want to squirm, but once both of you learn to deal with it, both of you will come out closer and more in love with each other.

#4 Lethargy and laziness. $ex is not a chore! Have you ever felt like it was easier to just pretend to be asleep instead of having $ex with your partner? You may have a tiring lifestyle, but if you’re looking for excuses to avoid $ex, you’re only going to drift away from your partner instead of getting closer.

#5 Physical attractiveness. Do you still find your partner $exually attractive? If both of you are slipping into bed nak*d every day, it’s easy to overlook the $exy stuff over time. Innovate, dress up for each other, and go crazy with wigs or different props to create a unique experience every now and then.

But most importantly, don’t let yourself go just because you’re in a stable relationship with someone who loves you. If you take your own appearance for granted and let yourself go, and expect your partner to have the physique of a perfect 10, you’re just being selfish and annoying. Try to look good, dress up, and behave just like you would if you were still single or on the first few dates.

#6 Withholding $ex. Don’t use $ex as a tool to get even after an argument. Of course, you may not feel like making out after a fight *unless you’re into angry make up $ex!* but don’t use $ex to win brownie points or force your partner to feel guilty and beg you for forgiveness. Your partner may apologize, but they’d hate you for withholding $ex and using it to win an argument.

#7 Stress and depression. Stress and depression reduces the level of testosterone in your body. Firstly, you don’t feel like having $ex when that happens. And secondly, your body doesn’t want you to have $ex! The more stressed or depressed you are, the more you’d want to avoid $ex because you won’t enjoy it anyway.

Try to relax, have fun and make each day a memorable experience. Life can be painful at times, but as long as you view your gla$$ as half full, you can still lead a happy and eventful life.

#8 Distractions in bed. iPads, televisions and electronic gadgets encroach your together time all the time. And if you have a television in your bedroom or surround yourself with gadgets, it’ll inevitably creep into your together time and turn into a distraction, even if both of you don’t realize it. When you get into bed with each other, avoid bringing any gadgets to bed, and your relationship will improve in no time.

It gets worse when you keep yourself occupied when your partner is idle and bored in bed. Lie down in bed together, fool around, tease each other or just talk about a few happy things. It’ll improve your relationship and the intimacy too!

#9 Trust issues. Trust plays a very important part in eliminating $exual problems in a relationship. When both of you trust each other completely, it’ll help both of you open up about each other’s $exual desires without the fear of being judged. And once both of you talk about the dirty things that turn either of you on, you’ll see your bedroom stories go from boring to $exually blazing overnight!

#10 Lack of selflessness. Don’t be selfish while making love to your partner. Your orgasm and $exual stimulation does matter, but never at the cost of ignoring your partner’s needs. Here’s a simple tip, the more selfless you are while having $ex and the more you focus on satisfying your partner, the better the $ex will be.

And if you’re not in the mood, don’t lay on your back like a starfish and behave like you hate what you’re doing. It’ll only hurt your partner.

#11 Difficult lifestyle. Long hours at work and an active social circle can take its toll on your $ex life and cause problems in bed over time. If you feel fatigued every day and are too tired to have $ex with your partner, try to schedule a couple of days in a week just to cuddle up and spend time with each other. Even if you don’t feel like making love instantly, the bonding will help build the $exual intimacy over time.

#12 The kids. If both of you have become new parents, it’ll definitely take a huge toll on your $ex life. The arrival of kids almost always crushes $exual intimacy in a marriage because there are so many other things to look into and worry about. But don’t let the lack of $ex turn into a routine that stretches for months on end.

Always find a way to make time, even if that means sneaking out for a few hours. If the lack of $ex turns into a routine, both of you may end up feeling too awkward and uncomfortable to change anything, especially when avoiding $ex means both of you could get a few hours a week to relax and free your mind!

#13 $exual dysfunctions. Sometimes, age or stress can play havoc on your $exual life. You may have a hard time getting it up, or getting interested in having $ex. Discuss the issue with your partner instead of feeling awkward about it, or your partner may a$$ume you’re just not interested in having $ex with them anymore. And if you feel like you need professional help, talk to your doctor about it.

#14 Ejaculation issues. If you have a hard time lasting long in bed because you suffer from premature ejaculation, don’t feel ashamed about it. You aren’t alone, and there are several men who experience the same $exual problem in bed. Try to relax your mind and indulge in a lot of foreplay. It’ll help you keep the little guy calm even when your mind gets overexcited.

#15 Dry privates. Unless it’s a medical condition, there’s probably a psychological reason behind why you may be feeling dry down there when you’re having $ex. It could be your anxiety, your self consciousness or your awkwardness. Fall in love with yourself, and like who you are. $ex is enjoyed more in the mind than in your privates. And if your guy learns a few moves in bed, he’d be able to help you feel better about yourself and help you achieve explosive orgasms in no time.

#16 Non $exual touches. Intimacy and emotional connection helps bring a couple closer together and connects them. Indulge in romantic touches that aren’t $exual every now and then. Try to build the intimacy so both of you can feel loved in the relationship. And non-$exual loving touches are perfect to do just that, without the pressure of having to end every cuddle in bed with $ex.

#17 Being taken for granted. When you feel like you’re being taken for granted in a relationship, it’s easy to get frustrated and secretly dislike your partner for it. It may start off as a minor annoyance, but eventually, it may lead to you disliking any kind of $exual intimacy in the relationship.

If you ever feel like you’ve got the shorter end of the stick in your romance, talk about it instead of sulking over it. Big chances are, your relationship and your $ex life will only improve once you do that.

#18 Emotional detachment. When two lovers don’t feel compatible or emotionally connected, they’d inevitably end up leading two separate lives even if they’re living under the same roof. And what starts off with emotional detachment could lead one or both of you to look for other means or other people to fulfill your emotional and $exual needs.

#19 Arguments. Contradictions and differences in opinions aren’t bad for love. In most circumstances, they can help both of you understand each other better and come closer. But if you end the discussion in a huff without concluding it, it could turn into a $exual problem in your relationship.

Bad $ex is often a result of unhealthy arguments and big egos in a relationship. Fight, but learn to fight fair so both of you can understand each other instead of hating each other.

#20 Painful $ex. Does it hurt when you have $ex? You may endure it if it’s a one off circumstance, but if $ex is more painful than pleasurable almost all the time, something’s probably not right.

If your doctor tells you that it’s not a medical condition, then it’s probably got something to do with your own state of mind. Perhaps, you aren’t ready for penetration just yet when you have $ex, or maybe you need to try and relax and be less anxious. If a good water based lubricant doesn’t make $ex exciting, try something new that $exually stimulates you and turns you on. Sometimes, routine can make even the best $ex seem mundane.

$exual problems in a relationship can crop up even in the most perfect of relationships. But there’s always a way to break the shackles of $exual boredom and rekindle the pa$$ion in your $ex lives. Try these tips here, and it would definitely help bring the pa$$ion back into your romance!

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